My Time With Silence
Well now that I am back, and talking of social media destroying lives, I can see that a lot of things has been happening whilst I was away, and these lot of the things happen to involve a certain Zimbabwean Erotic Dancer/Stripper called Bev Sibanda who recently toured the UK. I understand her first tour to the UK is somehow directly connected to a man called Sam Munodawafa who found his life suddenly turned upside down overnight in what I believe is one of the most humiliating incidents ever to be captured on social media. The man appeared to have soiled his underwear during a very intimate shocking live performance with raunchy dancer/stripper Bev. The soiled underwear of Sam Munodawafa was captured on video and has made headlines in the Zimbabwean UK Community.
What shocked me the most over this whole saga was that men, especially family men leave their homes (beautiful wives and children) to go and watch a stripper (fancy name erotic dancer) perform live sex acts on stage and call it performing and talent. I don't know if its just me but I found this to be perversion at its best. Oh and Nino did too by the way. I felt like I was watching a scene out of Sodom and Gomorrah but with straight people starring. In one of her performances she appeared to be pleasuring herself as people watched in amazement and wonder. I have to say, I am for women's rights, I am for women's liberties and I am for change and all, I am a very open minded woman, but I'm also for women's dignity and the preservation of family values . As a Zimbabwean born woman to see my fellow sisters looking up to a woman who mimics self pleasuring and who gropes a married man's privates in public makes me rather sick to say the least, because it seems to me our society has become almost depraved of basic human morals and principles in the name of new age and being westernised, but I know even my English friends would find the Beverly show rather perplexing, as the odd ones often go to Amsterdam for that. People now call evil good and good evil. In her interview Bev herself did say most women in her profession of work she works with turn to prostitution as a way of living because stripping does not pay enough to make a living, which does say a lot about the line of work she does. There are many women who have jobs that don't pay enough, but they do not find themselves turning to prostitution. However in all fairness Bev did say she does earn enough so she does not need to be a prostitute. It is however still very sad, that most of her collegues are prostitutes. Whilst in other African countries women look up to inspirational talented women like Lupita Nyong'o, its sad to see my nation hail a raunchy dancer/stripper as the nation's most talented woman of the moment, I don't know what message that sends to our young girls. And before anyone accuses me of judging, this is just my personal opinion on the matter, which I am entitled to.
However, in all this saga, my heart went out to Sam's wife as I can not even imagine the embarrassment, hurt and betrayal she must be feeling from her own husband, and I felt compelled to write her this open letter, which goes something like this...
Dear Sam Munodawafa's Wife
Wishing you the best in your marriage