DOMESTIC VIOLENCE EXCLUSIVE: JOSE NENZOU TRIED TO KILL ME AND WALTER MASOCHA COVERED UP FOR HER.

• Simba Nyemba speaks out about his Agape arranged marriage to Jose Nenzou

• Shocking revelation of how Jose Nenzou attempted to kill him and he ended up hospitalized. 

• Walter Masocha told him to drop charges and not give evidence to protect the Church

• Police advising him Jose Nenzou can still be charged with attempted murder and face imprisonment amid Walter Masocha scandal

Okay before I start writing this, I am pleased to announce that  He Was My Daddy Blog has now reached over 1 Million hits! Thank you my dear readers, please keep reading till justice is served!  When the  Walter Masocha trial was postponed to April last month, I knew that God had allowed it for a reason. My prayer was that people would come out and share their experiences so that when the trial starts the prosecution has a clear idea of how this man destroyed lives and even caused the deaths of many. I advised ex Agape members to reflect on their experiences in Agape. I always say that even if my post touches just one soul, for me the job would have been done. I am pleased to announce and confirm that one woman who was allegedly sexually assaulted by Walter Masocha successfully reported Walter to the police and gave her evidence in support of her claim, her files were transferred to Scotland Police to be added on the ongoing sexual assault case in which the trial starts on April 1 2015. After she finished reporting the crime, she told me how relieved she felt as this was the beginning of her healing process and moving on. I therefore continue to advise women who were sexually assaulted to report to the nearest police station, the police will take it from there. You have the right to remain anonymous as a victim of sexual assault.

However I feel one of my prayers has been answered as I formally pleaded with men to also come out about their abusive experiences in Agape. Women are not the only victims of Walter Masocha, men are too. Walter Masocha destroyed the lives of both men and women. One of the men who was lucky to survive was Simba. Simba was a victim of domestic abuse and spiritual abuse from his ex wife Jose NeNzou and Walter Masocha. Simba told me that he wanted his story to come out because he feels Jose Nenzou , a woman who strongly supports Walter Masocha should be prosecuted for aggravated body harm and attempted murder.

In a shocking explicit interview to He Was My Daddy Blog, Simba narrated his ordeal under Walter Masocha in what  I believe is one of the most disturbing cases of abuse by Masocha on a male victim.His voice still echoing the horror he experienced which almost cost him his life, Simba narrated his ordeal.

" I did not know who Jose Nenzou was. I didn't even know her. I did not know she had openly testified that she was HIV positive. Walter Masocha just told me that she was my wife and God had shown it to him. He told me I had to marry her. Because I was so brainwashed and feared disobeying God, I had no choice in the matter but to accept Jose as my wife, even though it wasn't my choice. We got married in May 2012. After we got married thats when Jose told me she was HIV positive and on medication. I had to accept it as she was already my wife but I protected myself. Soon after our wedding I started to notice things I wasn't comfortable with in my marriage. Walter was always texting and phoning Jose at odd hours at night. They were constantly on the phone to each other. The house had Walter's photos on the walls all over. Jose was constantly verbally abusive and showing signs of cruelty to me, she was always shouting, but busy in church calling herself " a woman of God".  I couldn't stand the hypocrisy. She doesn't know who God is because she has no love in her. In less than a year our marriage was on the rocks. My family had warned me against marrying a woman I did not even know. I never even dated her. I never thought it as an arranged marriage initially, but looking back it was an arrahnged married organised by Masocha in his “Agape Vision Marriages” propaganda. 

One night Jose was on the phone to Masocha and I got angry and started removing Masocha's pictures from the walls. Jose flipped and got into a fit of rage, saying it was an abomination to remove the pictures  of the Man of God and started running down the stairs after me. She was screaming, punching me. I tried to escape but she was too fast for me. She then went in the kitchen and smashed a plate and started attacking me in the head with it. I thought she was going to kill me. I remember seeing blood everywhere and being in so much pain in my head I couldn't even fight back or defend myself. The neighbours who heard her noise, screaming and smashing of plates called 999.

I later woke up in hospital realising Jose had slashed my head with a broken plate. She had been arrested and charged with attempted murder aggravated body harm using a weapon. The police were saying she was going to face imprisonment. Jose was in police custody all night and the next day. I started getting phone calls from Masocha telling me I had to drop the charges and could not let an agape child and woman of God  go to jail. It was not good for the church image. I was also getting phone calls from pastors and elders of the church telling me to show agape love to Jose and not let her face jail. The pressure was too much and I was forced to drop charges and not give a statement. The police were disappointed saying Jose was a dangerous woman  and the public needed to be protected from her and needed to be brought to book for the violent crime she committed. But I was forced not to give a statement because Masocha said the issue would be dealt with in the church. The case was then closed and Jose was released from custody without charge.

Not surprising nothing was done in the church,  Jose continued doing her flower decorations calling herself a woman of God even giving testimonials on the pulpit. She showed no remorse and never once apologised for nearly killing me in the brutal attack. She never even appreciated that I saved her from jail. She then went on to give a testimony in the church that she was a victim and now homeless, and she was warning Agape church members not to do anything that tarnishes the image of her father Walter Masocha.

After Masocha was arrested and police reading about him in the media, police have previously contacted me saying the case could still be reopened and Jose could still be charged with attempted murder and face imprisonment. Jose is a dangerous woman with an aggressive temper who could abuse another man and kill. When angry she can use any weapon to attack. The fact that she went for my head means that Jose’s intention was to kill me. I have to do my part to prevent the cycle of abuse.

I also want Walter Masocha to go down because I almost lost my life because of him. Jose almost killed me. If the neighbours had not called the police I would have died.  I didn't even know this woman. This is what angers me that I was a victim of an Agape arranged marriage.  I didn't want to marry her. She was given to me by Walter. This man has just destroyed too many lives and he needs to go down with his daughter Jose Nenzou." Simba said bitterly. He wants justice not only for him but also for all male victims of domestic violence and church abuse. He wants to be the first man to lift the lid and speak out about the atrocities of Walter Masocha.

Simba however wants to encourage people who have left Agape that there is life after the cult. Simba has started the process of rebuilding his life and is in his final year at university studying for a degree in engineering. He is looking forward to his gradation this year in October.  As a survivor of domestic violence Simba is here to tell the world that church abuse and domestic violence happens to man too, especially here in the diaspora. He is encouraging men to play their part is ensuring justice is served for the victims of Walter Masocha. I am so grateful for men like Simba, may God raise more men like him to speak out about their life threatening abuses in the hands of Walter Masocha. 

In other news, Nino encouraged me to express myself in spoken word  and said I should share this on my blog, he always brings out the best in me. I would like my dear readers to listen to my first attempt at spoken word, I was inspired to express this poem after the Faith Mutema story, be inspired, and listen here. 

Jose shows no remorse for trying to kill Simba and continues to call herself a woman of God 

Jose with her cousin Heather Grace Njenje who has now been arranged to marry Charles Chademana

Life after Agape, Domestic Violence survivor Simba looking forward to graduating in his masters degree this year. 

FAITH MUTEMA EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW

 Faith Mutema speaks out about her ordeal and encourages women to rise up above any storm. 

Last year a Zimbabwean mother Faith Mutema was publicly humiliated after a video of her crying and begging for forgiveness from her husband was posted on social media for the whole world to see. After watching the video I was personally moved to offer my support to Faith. Three months later  Faith has started the process of rebuilding her life. In an exclusive interview to He Was My Daddy Blog, Faith says,   “ I am the type of person that need answers and closure, very loving and caring but I hate backstabbers and pretenders. I grew up in a loving supportive family,  my mother and father have been wonderful parents to me. They have worked hard to provide a stable foundation for my life and future. They have taught me invaluable lessons about work, marriage, parenting, relationships and life. They set a healthy example from the very beginning that life is not all about getting… it’s about giving. My father has a motto for us as family. “Learn to be quiet ” as in to respect fools to avoid noise. And this helped a lot in my life because no matter what you do good or bad people will always talk and if you keep yourself away from them they will definitely reach a point when they will give up” Faith took her father’s advice diligently and kept quiet when her video went viral, but as her name was tarnished on social media, she felt now was the time to speak out and bring closure to her ordeal as she starts a fresh page in her life.

Humble Faith has learnt a lot from her supportive parents. 

“ I was so much in love with my husband and he was my true love. As you know all relationships are not rosy. I had lots of bad experiences in my marriage but I kept everything in my heart those who would see my glowing and smiling face outside could not easily figure out what I was experiencing But I also have good memories of my marriage.  Yes I believe in love….. My heart has been broken but still I believe in love because no matter what happens or how bad it seems today life goes on and it will be better tomorrow. “ Faith said confidently when asked whether she still believed in love.

Its not easy being a working mother, but as a woman you multitask! 

Her biggest role in her life as a woman is being a mother, and through the darkest moments of her life, it was her role as a mother that helped her find that inner strength. “Being a mother compelled me to reinvent myself, discovering a power within myself that has helped me reach the new rhythm in this path. Oh, what a challenge motherhood has been, and how complex it has been to educate my children, to grow and teach myself to be more patient, more focused and to appreciate together the small and great things of life. How tiring it has been to find the balance to guide them with limits, but without hindering their freedom. How extremely difficult it is to say ‘no’. How to make them happy and live a better life than the one we experienced. How difficult it is to love and to educate at the same time. It is true that a mother’s love is different from everything else; it is an immense force that helps you forgive, trust, and honor the divine commitment of being a mother, without schedules, without rest and without a script. I found within myself a power I didn't know existed”.

As a professional working mother, Faith says its been her greatest challenge as a woman, working and being a mum, "My greatest challenge as a woman is motherhood and keeping myself professionally active. It was a major test in my life, but I had not fully realized that being a mother is, in itself, the greatest challenge in a woman’s life. Pillian, Pascaline and Paisley were born when I was a mature woman and in the midst of a solid professional career. The birth of our children was a miracle of love that transformed us, our daily routine, thoughts, hierarchies and interests. Despite all of this, I wanted to be the same woman as I had always been. I could only begin to guess that this challenge would bring me the greatest learning of my life. And to work even more harder to provide for the family. The first thing was to accept the change."

Speaking about her relationship with her estranged husband Patrick, Faith says “ Patrick is the father of my kids and I cannot run away from that. We are not together but we talk together about the children. Whatever he said in the papers about the DNA tests those were just stories, he knows the kids are his and nothing else.  Right now I don’t know whether I will get back with him,  I have a lot on my mind and I am trying to focus on myself and my children.”

We now live in a civilized society, people think outside the box. 

Asked how she felt after the story went viral, Faith said, “I could not believe what was happening, it was like in a movie. To tell the truth I never thought Patrick could do such a thing to me and my family after all I went through. Vana Tete were supposed to get to the bottom of the story and find ways of solving it other than doing what they did, they forget they also have daughters. It is said “ Akazvara sekera mudende” or “ Mugoni wepwere ndeasinayo” so what goes around surely will come around. I was so touched and felt sorry for my father and the pain was unbearable, they belittled him of which even today when I think of it, it makes me cry. I was put to shame the most humiliation ever but I don’t blame the world because they are all human and they say whatever they want especially when you give them a chance to do so. First and foremost I blamed myself for solving a wrong thing with a wrong. And I also blamed Patrick for not being man enough to solve this issue without involving the media, taking the video, publishing it. What I did was so wrong but I feel people were not supposed to judge me. Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them you're a mile away and you have their shoes..... It was unfortunate to me that people could call me all sorts of names but I believe God has something in store for me and will never turn to the world to seek for forgiveness but to God only because He is the answer to all my pleas and He is the only person who understand and knows what was really going on in my marriage and he knows what pushed me that far though it was wrong, I admit. Through my pains I gained strength and learned that I never would have made it without the Lord bringing me through it. I know people will hate me, rate me, shake me, and try to break me but how strong I stand is what makes Me. And God has a reason for me to be here and he will see me through the up and downs.”

Faith said she was touched by the sympathy she received from the public, especially from women,  “Am so grateful with the support. I was overwhelmed with their support because after what I did supporting me was like encouraging to do bad things but I know they took it from the book of the Lord when a woman caught in adultery was forgiven but her accusers were convicted of their conscience when Jesus asked them to stone the woman if among them there was one who had never sinned. It made me strong and to know the reason I have to be on this planet. I’ve three beautiful daughters and they need me and am sure that’s the reason why they felt even if I did something wrong I needed that support for the sake of my kids and family because if I am gone they will never have another loving and caring mother , sister or aunt like me.”

Asked what advice she would give to any women who ever found themselves in a situation like hers, a resilient Faith spoke boldly against adultery and discouraged married women to ever go down that path, “ My advice to women is to never allow yourself to be in a situation which makes your life difficult / which doesn't suits you/ you are not comfortable with , whenever you feel things are not well leave if you have the chance to do so. Don’t ever think of being resolute cause you will end up in my situation whereby you thing doing what I did is right and think makes you feel better yet when caught no one will ever listen to what you went through.

A fresh faced and confident Faith at a Church Valentine dinner on February 14th. 

I asked Faith whether she thought our Zimbabwean culture played a part in the way she was treated by her husband’s family and publicly shamed. “ I really feel yes it did, but we now live in a civilized society, people now think outside the box of Zimbabwean culture . I feel that people who did not support what Patrick and his sisters did were very right because you can’t solve your family issues through the public humiliation , what will be the meaning of the saying “ Chakafukidza dzimba matenga”. Patrick’s family wanted to tarnish my image and destroy me completely and they thought the world could turn on me and say all sorts of bad things, but to those who are mature enough they didn't rush into conclusions. The fact that am so polite and taking it from the motto I learnt from my father “ Kunyarara kunokunda kurwa” I had to be quite. Its not that I didn't have anything to say or to fight back, had lots to say about him but was too way smart for that. • I would like to thank all those who supported me and I still need the support to keep me going and to those who called me names it was good for you during that time and you stole nothing from me am still the same Faith and even better now. I am Stronger because I had to be, I am Smarter because of my mistakes, Happier because of the sadness I've known and now Wiser because I have learnt from my life’s journey. I have stood and my future looks positive, if I can do it, any woman can. When you are shamed on social media, it looks dark and gloomy, but you can still rise up from the dust. I am living proof of that, I have risen above the storm”

I am happier because of the sadness I've known.