Ashamed To Be A Zimbabwean Today

This morning I was truly ashamed to be a Zimbabwean 

Dedicating this post to all Zimbabwean women who make a choice to date or marry outside the Zimbabwean Race especially in the UK 

I woke up this morning to absolute horror and disgust over comments posted on my Facebook wall yesterday by a number of angry barbaric Zimbabwean men, some posted at like 3am literally attacking me over a Facebook post which read... 

Happy Birthday to Nino. I celebrate you as my Boaz who taught me how to smile and laugh again. Not only is he the first and only Ghanaian Opera singer who is set to perform before the Queen, on a more serious note haapfeke Rocawear in fact atondibvunza kuti chii chinonzi rocawear, anopfeka hembe dziri fitted plus anoshanda zvekuti as an opera singer, entrepreneur, online/social media/branding marketer and designer...in other words guru of hustling on top of having a degree in banking and finance oh and as evidently seen ano geza 

The post is still on my Facebook unedited as well as some of the remaining comments. I posted it in a spirit of humour and just taking life less seriously really, since as a women rights activist I always write about human rights, abuse of women, rape etc, I just thought a few photos of my loved one and a post on his birthday would be something different to my normally serious thought provoking posts. However a good number of Zimbabwean men found the photos and posts offensive and launched a vicious attack. Their argument was that I as a Zimbabwean woman should not be with a Ghanian man. The comments got so derogatory that I had to remove some of them for sanity's sake. I don't know most of these Zimbabwean men personally but they follow me on Facebook for reasons now unknown to me. I was receiving in-boxes from concerned friends who are from Ghana and English white because of the derogatory attacks on Nino because of ....ummm wait for this, his dark skin. Are we in the stone age or what, Zimbabwean men, really? Nino also received messages from concerned friends as well over the abuse he was receiving from Zimbabwean men that was so vulgar and derogatory I personally had never seen anything like it, even the demented Agape church members don't even come close. 

 At this moment in my life I am so honored and privileged to be a Ghanian woman in the eyes of the Lord, and for the first time in my life today I did say I am ashamed to be Zimbabwean. To the Ghanaian community who follow my Facebook posts and my blogs I do apologize on behalf of the Zimbabwean men who are acting barbaric on social media and hurling obsence abuse at Nino for simply being the love of my life and looking so dangerously handsome. I don't understand why Zimbabwean men are being intimidated by his mere presence on my Facebook wall. Eish the mind boggles. Nino is a jewel of Ghana who is treasured and respected by the Ghanaian community. Please do accept my apologies over the barbaric behavior of my country men, most of them also have never heard of opera music and can not understand or appreciate it. Its nothing personal they genuinely don't know what opera music is. They sing what it called "Zim Dance Hall" and please don't get me started on the videos, "quality and dressing" again my apologies...

I was once married to a Zimbabwean man Shingai Musuka who subjected me to life threatening abuses at the hands of his sex offender spiritual father Walter Masocha, had I not fought these two Zimbabwean monsters back, I would be dead today, literally. So forgive me for not giving up on humanity, I still had it in me to love again and also to be loved again. Nino came into my life at a time I didn't even know how to smile, he made me laugh again, he appreciated me for who I was, and I am not ashamed to say it. I will not be bullied by a bunch of Zimbabwean internet trolls who are so confused about their own identity, who have no idea whether they are coming or going, and who don't know how to debate an intelligent woman without calling her a "whore". I will not be victimized or bullied for being with a Ghanian man. Unfortunately my bulling was a result of an online storm within the Zimbabwean community over Zim women dating west African men...oh the irony of it, as if it should be a surprise that some Zim women actually find west African men attractive...

It all started with Tendai's video...

Dear Africans, allow me to explain the root of this storm, it all started with a beautiful Zimbabwean lady posting a video online advising "Some" key word "some" not all Zimbabwean men on how to keep a Zim girl. She went on to give very helpful tips on dressing, personal hygiene and confidence, in a humorous non offensive way. She was calm, collected and expressed herself very well in the informative video. Tendai also expressed how men from Nigeria generally dress well, are well groomed and work hard and that "some" Zimbabwean women end up leaving the Zim men for west African men.  In a diabolical twist, a lot of Zimbabwean men went bar-sec and  were extremely upset over the video. Their responses were mostly aggressive, defensive and barbaric in nature in a media storm that can be safely be declared "state of emergency on Facebook". The uproar from Zim men is scary literally. Instead of accepting constructive criticism, and taking the issue lightly, the girl was verbally attacked and called all names under the sun, including "whore" and her parents where also attacked in the storm exposing a lot of hidden weakness in Zimbabwean men.  Tendai has since been threatened by Zimbabwe men not to ever set foot on Zim soil. Scary. 

Zimbabwean men where never taught how to respect women or how to look after them...The dark side of Zimbabwean culture that has bred monsters 

I personally believe that some or most (key words some and most) Zimbabwean men are the way they are today mainly because of their upbringing. The Zimbabwean culture teaches girls as young as 10 that when she grows up her job is to please her future husband sexually. Girls as young as 10 are taught sex positions and have their private parts elongated in a painful process for a the sole purpose of sexually gratifying their future husbands. As shocking as this is to the rest of the world, this is Zimbabwean culture at its best. Thankfully in the UK this culture and practice is illegal and classed under sexual abuse. The culture is slowly being put away in Zimbabwe, thanks to education and girl child rights, but on most men aged probably over 20, these ideologies that a woman's place is in the bedroom and kitchen still dominate the majority of Zimbabwean men which is why they find it very difficult to receive advise from a woman, its almost a taboo and unheard of. They also struggle with the idea of having a woman have power over them, especially on a social and political level. They were never taught that women can be outspoken. They were never taught how to take care of a woman, what they have to do to keep a woman. They just believe that it all comes down to sex, because they have been told that's a woman's job. This culture in Zimbabwe has had devastating impacts on women especially, and has contributed significantly to Zimbabwe having one of the highest HIV epidemics in the world, yet its one of the smallest countries in Africa.  This is why Zimbabwean men feel its okay to rape a woman because she is wearing a mini skirt. This issue of Zim men struggling to accept powerful women runs deep in Zimbabwe, I believe this is one of the reasons Zimbabwe is in the situation it is today, forget Robert Mugabe, the men of the country needs to look within and dig deeper on their behavioral patterns they often think is normal. 

Zimbabwean men are often self hating especially on dark skin and black man and they openly mock people with darker skin ignorantly

Its sad that lack of basic education on black history is very evident on the majority of Zimbabwean men.  In a world where black people are waking up to their identity and very appreciative of their dark skin and roots, the majority of Zimbabwean men still hold the primitive slavery mentality that lighter skin is more acceptable in society that darker skin. Zimbabwean men who are dark skinned lack self confidence and are often objects of scorn and ridicule by their lighter skinned fellow Zim men. Sad I know. This is what made me feel embarrassed to be a Zimbabwean today. Who in this world still laughs at dark skin? Have they not heard of Lupita Nyongo, Danai Gurira and Idris Elba? Do they not know the power of black skin? They are not even ashamed to flaunt this barbaric behavior for all and sundry. It was Black History Month in October. May I kindly advise Zimbabwean men to go back to October and learn about our history. Know who you are. Learn about how lighter skin in black people came to be. Learn about the rape of black women to produce lighter skinned slaves who were made to work in the houses and not in the fields. Black skin in its rawness is the pride of African men. Its gold. So please Zimbabwean men, do not insult our black heritage by openly mocking our black Kings online, do not make mother Africa weep over your sheer ignorance which is a mockery to the black race. Ghana is a very special country which is at the heart of our history.  I personally am attracted to dark skinned confident black men, hence I am with Nino, my KING. I love how Nigerian and Ghanaian men who are dark skinned ooze sexiness and confidence and are proud of their chocolate skin. I personally believe there is nothing more pathetic than a self hating black man, may God have mercy on the ignorant Zimbabwe brothers who bully, oppress and intimidate black kings with beautiful skin, your behavior has crippled a lot of dark skinned Zimbabwean men who were fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God. 

Nino has been viciously attacked by Zimbabwean men for his dark skin

Please watch my educational video on the matter

So in conclusion, I apologize again to my fellow African brothers and sisters who follow my Facebook and my blogs for the shameful ignorant behavior of some Zimbabwean men, I know a number of you were perplexed and offended by the recent posting of zim men on my wall. May I categorically express my love for Ghana and its people, in fact the true mother of Zimbabwe was called Sally Mugabe, born and raised in Ghana but a Zimbabwean by marriage. She was the first first lady of Zimbabwe, I have read remarkable things about her. I personally find Ghanians to be calm and gentle spirited people. Please be assured that not all Zimbabwean men are like the ones you have seen ranting obscenities online and hurling abuse at black kings like Nino, some are intelligent, honorable good men, and I am proud to have a few good man from Zimbabwe I call friends. 

To Zimbabwean men I say its my choice to be with a Ghanian man, there are some lovely Zim men out there but they are not my cup of tea, do not victimize me or bully me for my choice, no one abuses you for dating and marrying outside of Zimbabwe. We as Zimbabwean women don't really care whom you marry, neither do we get offended, we respect you for choices, its about time you return the favor. Thank you.